Everyone at some time in their life is confronted with an emotional hurt through some kind of tragedy that befalls their way.

I have no credentials except for the experience of it. I know there are pills for “depression” but instead of relying on chemicals to produce a better and healing state of mind, I have chosen other alternatives.

Helping Others:
I have found this to be very therapeutic. Everyone has challenges in their lives and at times are stumped as to how to solve them. Perhaps you know how and can lend a hand. By doing this your own problems take a back seat and you can forget momentarily about yourself. Helping others that I can gives me a good feeling and also reminds me that I do have the capacity to “do things”. One of the most difficult things is the immobilization that can happen in an emotional wound. You don’t want to do anything. By helping someone else, you lose yourself in them for a while and can function, then realize you don’t have to stay immobilized.

Let Others Help You:
For some this is easy, for others not. But reaching out to others and accepting help can make you remember you are never alone in this world. There is always someone else who has experienced what you are going through and someone who would like to help you.

Nature:
I have found that just going outside and quietly sitting and just listening to the birds sing, the squirrels scampering, and now the trees starting to bud, flowers starting to bloom, makes a connection to the source from which we all spring up. I have found strength in that source.

Using “Jellied Legs”:
I am not sure where I first heard this expression but it is a good one. Taking action even when you feel unsure, your legs get this weak feeling, and I for one, have even felt like I was going to “pass out”. But do something that you think would help you feel better. Sometimes it comes in the form of pushing past something that you need to do despite your emotional hurt. Just like physical exercise, we gain strength from exercising our minds in a positive way. A positive way meaning moving towards a solution. And if you are unsure you are doing it right, you are at least on the road to figuring it out.

I hope these words can help others who find themselves surrounded by tragedy. Not only tragedy but everyday ups and downs we all go through. If you have found ways to heal and would like to share your experience on this site, email susan@net80.mobi.